3 Ways to Strengthen Communication in Relationships
The cornerstone of any healthy and stable relationship is effective communication. When communication falters, relationships can deteriorate.
Regardless of whether the relationship is platonic, romantic, or professional, improving your communication skills can significantly enhance your connections with others. Here are some strategies to employ:
Be Fully Present
Building trust and respect requires both individuals to give their full attention to one another. Eliminate distractions like cell phones during conversations. Make eye contact and actively listen to what the other person is saying, as well as how they are expressing it.
Use “I” Statements
One of the main reasons people disengage in conversations is when they're told they’re doing something wrong. Phrases like “YOU do this” or “YOU do that” often lead to defensiveness rather than understanding.
Instead, focus on using “I” statements that express your feelings without assigning blame. For example, rather than saying, “You’re always late!” try saying, “I feel anxious when you’re late and I don’t hear from you.”
Notice the difference?
Avoid Negative Communication Patterns
Ineffective communication often stems from negative patterns, such as passive-aggressiveness, ignoring the speaker, or yelling.
Although changing ingrained negative communication habits takes time, you can make a commitment to become more aware of these patterns and consciously work to interrupt and redirect them.
These are just some of the ways you can improve your communication with others. You may also want to seek the guidance of a couples’ therapist who can offer you even more strategies and a safe space to share your feelings.
If you’d like to explore your own communication patterns in counseling, please reach out to me. I’d love to help you enhance your relationships.
Sources:
https://positivepsychology.com/communication-in-relationships/
https://www.verywellmind.com/communication-in-relationships-why-it-matters-and-how-to-improve-5218269
https://us.calmerry.com/blog/relationships/9-ways-to-improve-communication-in-your-relationship/